Why I Did Not Listen When They Said “Put Your Child in Day Care”



My family calls it being cooped up all day, and not letting my daughter be around other kids, spectators say I need to take a break and get out of the house, others say my daughter needs to be around other people than her immediate family of three. These are the voices of people who comment on my choice to be a stay at home mom. It seems as though they are turning what is supposed to be a positive decision into a negative one. Despite how annoying and sometimes hurtful some of their comments can be, I just remind myself that these comments are made by people with limited knowledge of staying at home with children because they have opted to work full-time for fear of raising sheltered, anti-social- children who suffer from separation. or because they had no choice but to work outside the home.
I choose to stay at home with my child because it is essential for me to be there to raise and care for her. I always say to myself, my social life can always be rebuilt but I can not get back the first years of my daughter’s life, so I indulge in the time I get to spend with her. The idea of day care did cross my mind, but I just could not bear to send her, because images of teacher’s neglecting her, other children, hitting and fighting her, began to fill my mind. I even thought about her getting sick from the other kids frequently and, I thought about how much our bond would loosen. All those thoughts were scary, so from there, I made a vow to myself to avoid putting my daughter in daycare. From that point on, I adjusted my life for what I see as her convenience. for our bond, and for her security, and for maybe my assurance.

My daughter used to suffer from separation anxiety, whenever I had to leave her she would throw tantrums and not let anyone console her, a relative made a snippy comment saying that she would only get worse, if I did not let her go to daycare. This angered me greatly because this relative refused to see that my daughter was throwing a tantrum for a reason and it was because she did not feel secure, and that she needed me, to help build her security. I was even told that I shouldn’t carry her around the house a lot because I would not get anything done. I did not take their advice and two years later I have an emotionally, healthy, independent, secure two year old.

I stayed home with my baby and no, I didn’t keep her locked in the house everyday, we went for walks around the block, we went to parks, and beaches, we went to the library I signed her up for parent-child playgroups where she could interact with babies her age as well as adults. I believed my daughter benefited greatly from me staying home with her, I have been able to teach her new things each day. We spend time reading books, learning numbers, colors, playing and making music and doing arts and crafts and various projects that help her learn. Despite what people have said bout “sheltered” children, my daughter is very smart, she is very vocal, her vocabulary is expansive and clear, and she has no problem at all formulating sentences. When we have to separate she does much better and I know it’s because she is secure now, she knows that mommy is not leaving her. Staying at home with her has made our stronger which has given her the confidence to interact with others. My daughter is not anti-social or reclusive she is a people -person.

I am glad I did not listen to those who told me not to stay at home with my child.I believe that it’s the bond between parents that determines a child’s emotional success, and sometimes physical success like career wise, or as far as goal setting. I don’t look down or judge parents who have to work outside of the home or parents who choose not to stay at home with their children for their own personal beliefs, I just believe that sometimes we leave our children too early, leaving little time for creating a secure bond, which in some children may cause attachment problems which then may effect social skills. Of course my beliefs are just my own, there have been reported cases of children having a strong bond with their parents despite going to daycare and I agree that once a child is secure with a strong bond with parent(s) that he/she will be able to separate without jeopardizing the parent child bond. My daughter is more secure than she was a year ago and she show signs of an eagerness to be around other children now, and to support this urge, I am going to enroll her in a toddler group, for once a week for 3 hours by herself.

Just look for the signs that your children give and follow them, they may show signs of insecurity, or even independence you just have to examnme them closesly and support them,

Every parent is different and every child and family is different, moms should do what’s best for them whether it’s to go out and work or stay at home with the kids. I just wanted it known that not all stay at home children are sheltered, reclusive, anti social. Or possess a great problem with separation of anxiety, it all depends on the way parents, raise their child.

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How Do Men Fit into Today’s Modern Families?




From my vantage point on the elliptical trainer on my front porch, I could see the four-way stop to my left as well as the entire length of the block. Here, I observe the parade of curious behavior as it goes past my house. Cars routinely blow through the stop signs in any of four directions; some drivers engaged in illegal (in my state) cell phone conversations, some too important to actually come to a stop, and others just oblivious to the eight-sided, blaringly red sign with a four letter word. The house for the handicapped halfway down the block has a steady flow of its clients meandering to and from the center of town. But really the most noticeable event is the sight of men pushing baby strollers mid day, mid-week. How can they do this? What changes have come about in our society to make this possible? How do they feel about their role?
My mind tries to curl its way around this phenomenon as I exercise away. Could it be that the wife has more earning power than the man? Instead of paying someone to watch the children, the couple decides that the alternative cost of the husband staying home is less than the day care costs. An intangible benefit is that the children actually have one of their parents in charge all the time and not someone who is in it for the job. So the economic benefits are a consideration. Could another possible scenario be that the wife is much younger than the husband and has a longer earning window? This again makes more financial sense than both working. In either case, it appears that the father has taken over the job of day care. Does that mean he takes care of the housework and cooking? I remember the Michael Keaton movie (Mr. Mom) about the stay-at-home dad, but the movie was made in 1983 so the long-term impact of that is negligible. I realize that Hollywood will do anything if it thinks it might make money so I discount this influence. If these possibilities have any credibility, then I am seeing a reversal of long-practiced social mores.

Do the friends of these men have any feedback for them? I bet they do and it’s not all positive: “oh, do you wear an apron while you’re cooking?”-“how’s diaper detail?”-and “does this contribute to your 401K?” They would never miss a chance to throw out some barbed remarks and I’m not even going to talk about the possible questions regarding positions. All of this might combine to make a man feel less than adequate.

Perhaps all that feminist talk of the 70’s is catching up to us and men are starting to feel the pressure to give in to women’s demands. After all, we all know the women hold the upper hand. They are the ones who say Yes or No to the big question-What’s after dinner?

Now that I’ve taken you through this seemingly self-pitying diatribe, I should confess. I am actually on the front porch exercising because I can. I stay at home during the day, vacuum, wash clothes, fix dinner, read chapter books, and generally act as the soccer dad. I’m perfectly happy doing this and, in fact, am thriving on it. I know that my little son will benefit from this attention and it also gives me time to exercise, write, read, and keep things in order at home.

I will never say that this work is easy because it is not. I’m sometimes relieved to go to a part-time job at Kinderopvang Leiden at night and let down my guard a bit and talk with other adults. I don’t know how women were able to do such a good job at this. It’s tiring; sometimes boring, demanding, and frequently, I feel inadequate at my day job.

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Motorola Pure H12: A Comfortable Bluetooth Headset



technology-music-sound-thingsMotorola has created the CrystalTalk technology as a useful way to improve call quality on mobile phones. This wonderful technology will provide users with adaptive speaker technology and noise reduction. The Motorola Pure H12 has this special CrystalTalk technology built into it as well. Users will have a more pleasurable conversation that is free from distracting background noises. Voices will be heard clearly without any unnecessary feedback.
The Motorola Pure H12 also has an elegant design with great performance. The diamond cut design will appeal to many consumers that require style and functionality. It is a compact device that can be easily placed into your pocket, bag, or purse for grab and go situations. Another wonderful benefit of this device is its comfortable fit. It will not weigh down your ears or cause pain from long periods of use. There is a large multifunction button that will be used for adjusting volume and it is extremely easy to locate when in the middle of a call. The dedicated power toggle comes in handy when it comes to saving your battery. You will be able to conserve the power by turning the device off or on with ease.

The flexible and thin ear hook with immersive sound has a skinny design in order to make it discreet. It will not look like a bulky attachment hanging from your ear. Anyone wearing glasses will also be able to wear this device comfortably because of its slim design. The three interchangeable covers have a soft cushion for superb comfort. It will be able to effortlessly slide into your ear. Charging the Motorola Pure H12 is a simple task to complete. It automatically comes with a portable charging cradle or a desktop stand. You will be able to place the headset into the charging cradle securely because of the magnetic contacts. There will no surprised instances of a non charged headset because of improper insertion.

One of the best features of the Motorola Pure H12 is that it will automatically go into pairing mode when it is first turned on. This will give you an easier and smoother process instead of fighting with different settings. The two included microphones will successfully block out unwanted background noise and they will also adjust noise levels. Restaurant settings can be one of the noisiest environments, but with this Bluetooth headset you will have no issues hearing your callers. It does an excellent job of cleaning up background noises. The CrystalTalk technology makes the Motorola Pure H12 a wonderful device to add to your existing gadget collection. It will be the perfect accessory to any Bluetooth mobile phone.

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Would You Put a Loved One in Just Any Nursing Home?



Dear Readers,
I currently work for a Nursing Home, Rehabilitation and Assisted Living Facility in Southern New Jersey. I can honestly say I am embarrassed to tell anyone the name of the facility that I work for. There are numerous cases of Abuse, Neglect, Possible fraud, misappropriation of funds, unfair and unlawful treatment of employee’s. Our facility has been under State survey Numerous times, we have recently been closed for better than 3 months to admissions.One week ago the State finally passed us once again, but it was all smoke and mirrors, and lies to get the approval for reopening.

The owner and the corporation for our facility has had several other facilities closed, and unable to operate in certain States. He currently owns at least 5 other facilities in the State of New Jersey and has a multitude of problems with each.

Some of us employee’s have personally contacted the State and the Department of Health. Mysteriously enough part of residents files disappear,many issues get covered up, not to mention the under handed methods they use to admit patients. For example while the facility was closed to admissions, The nurses were specifically told not to send residents out to any hospitals. If the Nurse had no choice but to send a resident out to the hospital and they were not being admitted, paper work was fudged to show the resident was not gone longer than 24 hours. When a resident went to the hospital and was longer than 24 hours there the Department of Health said they have to be relocated or placed at another facility. Well, we had patients come back that should not have, just so they could keep the census above 100.

The facility I am speaking of houses residents that quite a few should not be there. They consist of sexual predators, some as high as 2nd level, child molesters, drug abusers, mentally incapacitated and Aids patients. Some of these residents are allowed to roam the halls, a few have eloped. One resident recently tried to set the building on fire.Alcohol and drugs are easily brought in and out of the building, and unfortunately given to other residents. The Certified Nurses Assistant and Nurses Aides that work the 2nd and 3rd shift have been caught having sexual intercourse in resident rooms, the Registered Nurses and Licensed Practical Nurses sell Pocket Books and other merchandise in the facility which takes the aides away from their duties.

Our loved ones are most assuredly not safe in this facility. I am sure you are saying to yourself, “if it’s that bad, why do I still work there.” Not everyone who works there is crooked, some of us do actually care about these residents. And yes some are there just because they need a job sadly, and it’s just a paycheck to them. For those of us who care and feel a responsibility to the residents, we are the eyes and ears for the State Agencies. I urge each and everyone who has a loved one going into a facility to please do as much research as you can before placing them. To the owners of these facilities it’s all about the money. Nursing homes have become a huge profit organization for these people.

You can find anything on anyone over the Internet. PLEASE, use all the resources you can. The owner of our facility needs to go to prison for the rest of his life, along with his associates and all the corporate office staff the is directly under his command. They are quite aware of his activities. Tell me how a facility Director can earn a $3300.00 bonus twice a month and never be at the facility. Just remember the money that they are collecting that is to go for the resident and patient care is buying, Condo’s, Lexus’s, Mirada’s,Nanny’s for their children and the list goes on.


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Ten Characteristics of a Good Metric

We have all heard the old adage; you cannot manage what you do not measure. That is great advice, however what exactly do we mean by “measure.” It is a vague word used to define “something” we are supposed to measure in order to improve productivity. What is that something? That something is a viable metric that can be measured, reported, quantified, explained and improved upon. With that in mind we will define the 10 rudimentary characteristics which make up good measurements.

Ten Characteristics of good Measurements:
It must be quantitative in relation to an objective value. The measurement must be easily understood by conveying what is being measured and by what standards. The measurement must recognize appropriate and productive behaviors. This metric is published in relation to productive behavior while reducing short-cuts, hacks or other system work a round to improve individual productivity scores. It needs to be evident. The effects of the metric are easily apparent to all parties involved. Those who are involved in processing the metrics can easily define what it is they are trying to measure. Comprises both inputs and outputs. This metric is an integration of all components of the specific process which is being measured. Determine if a metric is relevant. Focus on key metrics which are indicators of real value to help you manage your operation. Make sure the measurement covers multiple dimensions of your operation. Ensure that the metric is balanced among utilization, productivity, and performance. Additionally, this measurement needs to display the correct tradeoffs. The measurement procedures must be economically sound. Make sure the costs of analysis and retrieval are less than the profit gained from productivity. The measurement must me clearly defined and mutually agreed upon. All key elements, both internal and external, must agree to that any particular metric being measured is viable to the operation. The measure must emphasize trust while validating the usage among the different groups involved.

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XOLAIR: FDA Approved Drug for Seasonal Allergies


At this time of the year, individuals suffering from asthma find asthmatic symptoms can be significantly exacerbated by allergens associated with changing weather. For these individuals, standard asthma medications and treatments often do not remedy these unique seasonal allergy symptoms, especially those associated with Spring season. For this reason, during the period approaching Spring, many asthma sufferers begin to seek out additional asthma treatment options to remedy complications created by allergens.
Xolair, manufactured and distributed by Genetech, Inc., and Novartis Pharmaceutical Corporation, is a leading FDA approved prescription drug used in the treatment of asthma attributed to allergens. Xolair lends its success to the control over IgE, the natural occurring biological component, within our body, by suppressing the IgE overproduction which attributes to the allergic reaction in asthmatic patients.

With the ability to control IgE production, Xolair can be used in patients over the age of 12, treating allergen induced asthma simply with the application of injectable Xolair, in the office, on average, ever two to four weeks, just below the skin. Dosing will, of course, vary depending on the degree to which the patient suffers from asthma symptoms associated from allergen induced spikes in naturally occurring physiological IgE.

As with most FDA approved drugs, Xolair, in the treatment of allergen induced asthma, does not come without side effects. In studies, the most common Xolair side effects include mild headache, tingling or slight soreness of the throat and even symptoms associated with sinus drainage or an upper respiratory tract infection. At the Xolair injection site, some asthmatic patients, using Xolair to treat allergen asthma, may notice bruising and some slight swelling. While this is normal, these injection side effects should remedy within a week or so and, when not remedied during this period, should be examined by a healthcare professional.

For patients with year round asthma symptoms, the use of Xolair is approved for use as a supplement prescription drug during peak periods of allergy season. Most often, asthma patients who ordinarily use steroid inhalers will find the use of Xolair injections beneficial during the peak allergy season. During pregnancy, however, Xolair should be used at minimum due to the potential allergen associated antibodies which may develop within the fetus.

Each Spring, Americans across the country suffer from asthmatic symptoms associated with peak allergy season. When suffering from wheezing, difficulty breathing, sneezing and irritation of the eyes, nose and ears, consider using Xolair in the treatment of your allergic asthma. Even for products put in the face, you need thoruogh review of it before using. Good thing many are shiffting to this product–a vitamin c serum for face which is really effective. So, always seek the best products and medications for you.

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Web Design and the World Wide Web

In today’s world, using the Internet has become as natural as picking up the telephone. A website of your own will afford you a number of advantages. You will be able to reinforce your image and strengthen your business by advertising your products or services using the World Wide Web.

When potential clients visit your website, you want them to feel as comfortable and cared for as they would in your place of business. Venturing out on the world wide web can be a major step. Having a website does not need to cost an arm and a leg, it can be done economically. Hiring someone professionally to do your website should not be a big expense.

It is becoming more and more popular for businesses to have their own business website and seek the help of digital marketing agencies. Finally people have realized the benefits of having their own websites and now know what a website can really do for their business. You can have a business website for a whole variety of different reasons. Many people will want a website where they can sell things and advertise their companies’ products or services. Some businesses may just want a website where people can be directed to from advertisements. The web is one of the best possible forms of advertisement and marketing. There are so many people that use the Internet it would be such a shame for businesses to miss out on this fantastic business opportunity.

In order for your business to get the best out of the Internet, you will need to find a web design company that can really give you everything you want and require. A good web design company will take into consideration your requirements and preferences for the website. The company should also be there to advise you of any concerns they may have and advise you on the best thing they think you should do.

There are a few stages to the whole process before you will get your website. You will first normally meet with the company who will discuss with you everything you need and what sort of system you will want to use. Once everything is agreed upon, you will normally meet with the designer and discuss design ideas and talk about what you want the website to look like and how you want it to perform. The designer will complete a design for the website and you can then talk about any changes you may want to make. Once the design has been finalized the website can be built, this will normally take about 2-3 days. After this the website will go live on the Internet.

Many people don’t think about how they are going to promote the website and get it to show up on Google. Some people think that all websites automatically show up in the search results, however, this is certainly not the case. It takes a lot of time and effort for websites to show up on the first pages of Google. Most websites from the date of launch will normally take around 6 months to show up prominently on the first pages of the search results.

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How to Become a Babysitter

Babysitting is a great job for students who need some extra cash! I myself have done this before going into my field and started looking for hospitality jobs london. If you love children, you can be on your way to running your own babysitting business. You can be paid between $8-$15 and hour-CASH! Read on to find out how you can get started.

Step 1-Start by babysitting for relatives and close family friends. This is a quick and easy way to get some experience.

Step 2-Talk to people. There are so many people in search of good, reliable babysitters. You just have to find them! Talk to people at your church, neighbors, school. Ask if they know anyone who needs a babysitter. Do you have any younger siblings? Do they ever have friends over for a play date? Ask the parents if they could use a night out and offer to watch their children!

Step 3-Sometimes families prefer to set up a preliminary meeting before leaving you alone to watch their children. Schedule a time to go over their house, play with their children, and get to know the family. This is your time to show the parents what you can do!

Step 4-Once you land a babysitting job, work hard! Make an effort to engage with the children-don’t just sit on the couch and watch television! Build forts with couch cushions, finger paint, play hide-and-seek, etc. Find out what the kids like to do and do it (as long as it is safe and appropriate)! The trick of being a great babysitter is to impress the kids. That way, the kids will tell their parents that they had so much fun with you!

At the end of the night, get the kids in bed on time-make sure they brush their teeth! Try to put them to bed like their parents do. Reading a book often settles the children down after your night of fun!

Once the kids are in bed, it is your job to clean up! This is what will impress the parents! Try to leave the house cleaner than it was when they left. If there are dishes in the sink, wash them! Organize the toys and games that you played with, sweep up the crumbs on the floor. If you have extra time, write the kids a note about how much fun you had, and leave it for them to read the next morning. Doing these things will set you apart from other babysitters, and the parents will notice!

When the parents come home, don’t just take the money and run. Make a point to tell them something positive about their child! Tell them a little bit about what you did. You don’t need to give them a detailed report…just a few highlights. Tell the parents that you enjoyed playing with their children, and that you would love to come back again.

Step 5-All you need to do to jump start your babysitting business is impress one family. If you can do that, your name and number will start to spread into other households. Parents will suggest you to their friends, and you will be on your way to becoming the best babysitter in your town!

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Loving one another



“Jesus’s death wasn’t just an act of love, it defines love.” -John Piper


In this world where the truth has become distorted, love has become corrupted. Its definition has become lowly, understated and used-up.


We tend to coordinate love with the new trends, with material things, with media and even with people. We choose what to love and who to love. We create our own answers to the questions how to love and why love. We, on our own timeline, decide when to love and where.


Love on this world has become selfish. We mind our own benefit, our own pleasures and our own feelings. We have forgotten that all of these are conditional.


However, isn’t it lovely to know that Jesus traded heaven to have us again? To express His love for us directly?


His gift of freedom opened our hearts to life. His death became an ultimate example of what agape means. That through his death, we would follow His walk and do the same kind of life-laying-down love towards His people.


This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.

-1 John 3:16


He himself is Love. His life and death both demonstrated love, freedom and forgiveness.


He is the very reason why we love. And He will always be the genuine model of who to love, when to love, where to love, how to love and why love.


Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

-1 John 3:18. Thankyou for reading this blog post until the very end. May we all learn from this. Anyway, I also thank friends who helped me in bringing out this post. my friends at work who knows all the ins and outs of hosting ranking.

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An empowered woman


With her bubbly personality and contagious smile, my sister Gillet exudes positivity that gets easily pass on to people around her. This young lady usually makes inspirational quotes and positive thoughts out of her daily ponderings when she is in her training. And because she would like to share her wanderings to others, Gretchen thought of a way to make it a form of merchandise while leaving people with positivity through her own project.


Ideas that uplift the spirit and morale, enlighten someone’s clouded thoughts, or just plain encouraging words to make you go forward and reach for your dreams are the things she, together with the people who help in her ventures, would like to share to others.


Despite her heavy load at work, Gilet will never set aside the urge to go places as she has long been bitten by the travel bug. “I love traveling! Super! Every chance I get to explore and experience, I do! I just love learning new things and seeing different cultures,” she says. For this woman,  who is also someone who lovesa the computer (you know, stuff about reviews and nas server test and the like), travelling close to nature makes her feel God’s presence. It’s as if when she’s lost in the middle of nature, she sees and reflects on the beauty of life and of people.


“I’m a nature-lover. I feel God’s presence every time I’m in the midst of nature,” she says.


Dealing with pitfalls


This girl’s chosen craft is undeniably one that is rooted from a passionate heart, saying that hers is what keeps her “fighting until the end” and go the extra mile. Gilet  says, “When I play the game, I just think of my love for the sport, what I’ve been working hard for and what I want for the team.” But successes are not always in their side.  “Failure is an important part of learning, becoming better and maturing as a person. Once you accept this, failure won’t be something you fear but something you will embrace to be stronger.”


She also stresses on not being hard on herself and to learn to relax and laugh off the bad vibes away of her system. “Enjoy the journey. Allow yourself to remember why you’re here in the first place, and the love will come back to you,” the stunner said.


And like any other television personality and known sports star who gets her own share of spotlight, she is not an exemption to bashers who try to pin her down and throw below-the-belt criticisms just because.  In spite these, she still stands strong and unshaken as she knows people know nothing about what she has gone through to reach what she is today. “Believe me, I’m just human and at the start it wasn’t easy,” she says. “People out there have no idea about your journey and they can only judge at surface value,” she adds, stressing that she has long passed the stage where she had to be hard on herself to meet the expectations of people.


Believing that they do the bashing and incessant criticisms because of their personal burdens, she  knows that haters are there to keep her humble and aware of the fact that she can never please everybody.  “When I learned to let that go, when I learned not to care so much about what others were saying that was when I was able to go back to my core.” She has come so far. And yet, she continues to strive for the craft she chooses.

And when everything seems to be tough, take it from the words of this woman who had her share of pressure and weariness.


When your body gets weak and tired, when you feel like your passion’s run dry, don’t forget to take a breather and remember that life is beautiful, she says.  “You are beautiful. Imperfect, yes, but beautiful just the same.”


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